Tuesday, August 10, 2010


I'm still having a hard time putting into words what I've been pondering. I've actually been very discouraged these past few days about these questions. I can't tell if God is nudging me to make changes or if the devil is trying to pull me down.

Is being a full time homemaker (without children) really what God wants for me?

Am I supposed to be doing something to help fulfill the Great Commission (Matthew 28:18-20)?

Is it selfish to be spending my life at home, only ministering to my husband? Do I need to pursue volunteer work?

Is it okay for me to pursue additional education when I don't have a traditional career?

Am I doing enough? I've always been a driven person, whether with education or career or finances. Now I feel like "all" I am doing is taking care of my husband. It's not that it's not a noble thing to do, but is it enough? Is homemaking really a Biblical calling?

I have a bunch of questions and I'm not sure where to find the answers. I'm praying but I'm not sure I know how to listen for God's response.


bekahcubed said...

I feel you--I've been home this summer working on my master's thesis and have struggled with feeling like I'm not doing enough. Is it enough that I'm researching from home, working around my home, taking time for people, helping out wherever I can? Sometimes I go stir-crazy within the walls of my own house-but this is the season I'm in (and with teaching this fall, it's soon going to end).

I don't have any advice--but I am praying for you. Those are tough questions to grapple with.

Cassandra said...

Thank you Bekah. :) I really appreciate your prayers. Good luck with your thesis!

Ranee said...

I wanted to thank you for your comment on my blog today! May the Lord continue to bless us as we seek His will! May this be so for you, as well! :0)

Cassandra said...

Thank you so much, Ranee. :)

Anonymous said...

I can relate to the questions that you're pondering, because I am pondering some of those same questions myself.

I think the hardest thing about finding answers to these types of questions is there really aren't any "right" or "wrong" answers. We have to go where the Lord has called us, and often times, this is not easy to determine.

Remember that you are always "doing enough" by just being a daughter of your Heavenly Father. I will keep you in my prayers.

-Lady Rose

Ann@His Grace To Me said...

I will resist the strong temptation to tell you my opinion(which is useless). When I'm feeling unclear about what I should be doing with my life, I ask God to make it abundantly clear to me. He always comes through for me. I know He will do the same for you. Keeping you in prayer.

Cassandra said...

Lady Rose - Thank you for praying. :) I really appreciate it! Thanks also for that reminder about being God's daughter. I really needed to hear that.

Ann - I'm interested in hearing your opinions! Thanks for your prayers. :)

Travels With Uncle Sam said...

I was a stay at home wife many years before I had children (before that I worked and went to college). Do whatever you feel led to do, whatever you and your husband feel is right. There are really no rules here. We ARE witnesses simply because we are here; we don't necessarily have to "go witnessing" unless led. We just want to make sure we are GOOD witnesses by living godly lives.

Cassandra said...

Travels With Uncle Sam - Thanks so much for your comment. That's a good reminder to be good witnesses by leading godly lives. :)

Ann@His Grace To Me said...

Since you asked...LOL!

My initial thoughts run along the same lines as Travels with Uncle Sam. There are no rules. The world may try to fool you into thinking otherwise, but it's just not true.

Supporting your husband from home IS doing something. Creating a loving home for him is a BIG something! It is not selfish to minister only to your husband. You are the only one who can do it! What a wonderful witness to the world that you are committed to blessing him. That is mission work of a special order that we don't see enough today.

If God is nudging you into a new season of your life, then He will make it abundantly clear - but not at the expense of demeaning the work you are doing at home. Does that make sense? When God called me to leave the classroom after 15 years to stay home and raise my small children, He did not make my working years seem like they were of no consequence. He just made it clear to me that it was time to make a change.

Keeping you in prayer,


Travels With Uncle Sam said...

Remember, any time we get to say ANYTHING about the Lord to a person, or do something for somebody in His name, however small, it is a victory, a witness.

Cassandra said...

I hadn't thought of that... must ponder that some more. :)

Ruth MacC said...

Being a wife ( and\or mother) is one of the highest callings for a woman.
The Bible commands us to care for widows and orphans. Perhaps that's an area you can look into?
There are lost of single parents where I live and I do the best I can to help them out in any way that I can. Also, I try to text, phone or visit the sick in my church. Every now and again I buy a bunch of flowers or a fridge magnet etc and give them to somebody that I cant visit; just to let them know I am thinking of them.
Maybe you can do something like that?

One person can make a huge difference!

Cassandra said...

Ruth, thanks for sharing your insights and suggestions. I'm still pondering this issue and need to pray about it more. :)